Parents and caregivers often feel like their children are not listening, but experts say there is a difference between simply hearing and truly understanding.
Kendra Morgan, founder of Building All Children and a child development specialist, says active listening is a skill that must be taught and practiced by both kids and adults.
Morgan says in a world full of distractions, it is important for families to slow down and be intentional about communication. She shared several strategies to help children develop stronger listening habits.
1. Teach “look, listen and respond”
Morgan says active listening starts with engaging the eyes, ears and brain. She recommends teaching children to make eye contact, stop what they are doing and focus on the speaker, then respond by repeating or acknowledging what they heard.
2. Get your child’s attention first
Before giving instructions, Morgan says parents should make sure they have their child’s full attention. That may mean getting on their level and having a face-to-face conversation rather than speaking while distracted or from another room.
3. Keep directions simple and clear
Morgan says children respond better to short, direct instructions. She advises parents to avoid overexplaining and instead focus on what is most important, using clear and simple language.
4. Ask children to repeat instructions
To reinforce understanding, Morgan says it helps to have children repeat directions back. This allows parents to confirm the message was received and helps children process what they need to do.
5. Praise positive listening behavior
Morgan says recognizing when children listen well can reinforce the behavior. She encourages parents to praise kids when they follow directions, respond appropriately or avoid interrupting.
6. Practice during everyday moments
Daily routines offer natural opportunities to build listening skills. Morgan says mealtimes and car rides can be especially helpful since they provide a chance for more focused conversation without as many distractions.
7. Use bedtime to connect
Morgan says research shows children often remember more about their day when they are lying down. She suggests parents spend a few extra minutes at bedtime talking with their children, as it can be a valuable time for reflection and communication.
Morgan says while teaching active listening takes time, consistent practice can help children develop stronger communication skills that will benefit them throughout life.
